Sunday, 27 March 2016

Nefe's Thots: Little Things that Matter

Nefe's Thots: Little Things that Matter: There is a general desire to look at the big things - a graduate looks to the point when he will earn six digits; a worker looks to the time...

Little Things that Matter

There is a general desire to look at the big things - a graduate looks to the point when he will earn six digits; a worker looks to the time when he will be the manager; a lady looks ahead to the day when she will walk down the isle, dressed in white; and a man looks forward to the day when he will sit and have all his children as graduates surrounding him with their families.

These are all good desires, it is okay to expect  the best of life, but the connecting factor is what we do in-between. What do you do everyday in preparation for six figures et al'. I have learnt these few tips and will like to share them with you:

1. Never be idle: Whatever your hands find to do, do with all your might. It happens a lot to see people look down on what they have before them, but expect miracles from heaven. You are mean to the not-so-good-looking guy  in your office, but you are trusting God for a cool guy. You refuse to take up a front desk job, but prefer to sit at home without a job, waiting for six figures.

2. Keep improving on what you have: Life is a journey, and moving continuously ahead opens you up to different horizons. The parable of the talents is a vivid example here; the more, the more. Improve on what you have and more opportunities will open up.

3. Help others on the way: Be of assistance to everyone you can assist, never feel inept. Sometimes people feel distracted by opportunities to help, they prefer to keep heading in the direction of  success alone.

4. Be thankful: Whatever you achieve, thank God for it. If you are faithful in little, you will be faithful in much. Faithfulness attracts rewards that money cannot buy.

5. Don't take short cuts: Sometimes, people make it seem like you have to be crooked to succeed, they shun honesty and right living. You do not need to cut corners or cheat to succeed. It may take a while, but doing the right thing pays.

6. Expect the best: Be positive and you will get positive results.

I hope this has helped you today, like I said earlier, life is a journey, it does not happen to you suddenly. Believe the best and prepare for it, and you will see the fruit you really desire.

Copyright © 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Saturday, 26 March 2016

Wonders shall never End

Indeed, wonders shall never end. We are constantly faced with experiences that leave us in awe. My youngest son made it clear today that he only wants to eat 'Fried Rice'. I tried all his other favourites but the little boy said a resolute 'no'. I even reminded him that there were no veggies at home, as I used the last batch for the Fried rice we just finished and he instructed me politely to buy some more veggies on my way from work.

This reminds me of the fact that the kids of this age have minds of their own, they are more aware of themselves than we were and learn a lot from their environments, TV, games, the internet etc. It reminds me daily that we cannot let them grow up without pointing certain things out  to them. We cannot assume that they will grow up right. We have to be deliberate about their friends and acquaintances, their exposure, religion, our time with them and everything you can think of because we have been instructed to "train up a child the way he should go an when he is old, he will not depart from it".

I am not saying force them to be all you want them to be or be rigid with them, I am saying expose them to what is right; but also let them learn to make right choices, like my son who learnt that eating fried rice everyday is not balanced.

Have a great day,
Omonefe O. Eruotor

Copyright © 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Monday, 21 March 2016


I just published a novella titled A Mile in Her Shoes, and guess what? It was not a walk in the park. I remember waking up at night to write chapters, when I had a baby who was less than 18 months old. I remember sending it out for typing because I wrote in ink (archaic right!) and having to read through to make corrections and finally send to an editor bla bla bla. My point is, working to see your dreams come true is not always easy, giving up is EASY. If you know how many manuscripts I have lost or destroyed, you would expect me to just tell myself that this is not for me; but I trusted God for  grace and here I am today.

Don't expect a rain of everything you have ever wished for to fall on you one day, keep striving, keep digging and watch your dreams come true; and don't feel you are at a disadvantaged position - now a mother, so you cannot combine the challenges of running a home, caring for a child with going after your dream.

Dare to dream and dare to see your dreams come true.

Much Love,
Omonefe Eruotor