Thursday, 1 December 2016


The 1st of December is World AIDS Day, a day set aside to remember those who have passed, show support for those living with HIV/AIDS and create awareness  on HIV prevention. Keep reading...

Copyright (C) 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor


Over the years, I have watched the Calabar festival on television without understanding it perfectly. I had to look closely and study and now I believe I know enough to prepare your hearts for the 2016 event. Keep Reading

Copyright (C) 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Monday, 28 November 2016


In preparation for the awareness exercise on gender violence, I thought to share this piece I wrote in May, 2016.
Enjoy reading...continue reading here...

Copyright (C) 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Saturday, 19 November 2016


Last Tuesday, my baby came home with itchy eyes, and as a dutiful mom I bought an over-the-counter ophthalmic solution for him on my way from work the next day. When I got home and met that the eyes had turned red with conjunctivitis, popularly known as "Apollo"; I was happy I took initiative and started treatment for him immediately. He faced a lot of discomfort - itchy eyes, discharge and a host of others which made him a little more clingy; needing

Thursday, 27 October 2016


Today, I feel like rhyming. Funny, it's been a while.
Enjoy reading:

For every contest, there is a prize,
For every cross, there is a cause,
For every win, there's been a war,
For every birth, there's been travail.

Seasons come and seasons go,
What will count is what they show.
After one comes another, just like bricks one on the other.
They build walls, they build houses
They make fortresses, by right placement.
Seasons come and seasons go
What will count is what they show.

We all have seasons, we all have phases,
But sometimes we don't understand their places
We concentrate on them instead of the process,
And in the end, we have to start from scratch.

Copyright (C) 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Saturday, 15 October 2016


Hello People,

It's been a busy week, one of those when you feel like eating the whole world in a day and end up angry with yourself for yielding to cravings.

I have been on a weight loss programme which had helped me lose 9 kg before this week. With the picky fingers, I was shocked  to realize I had regained 1.8 kg and the cravings are still in play.

Mine may just be a few kilograms which I trust God to help me burn in the next couple of days, but I can imagine the frustration felt by people who have tried endlessly to shed weight. I can imagine how it feels to starve yourself, try to watch your diet or run endlessly and still not lose a kilogram.

It is true that some types of weight gain are genetic and are difficult to handle, some other people may have food addiction which makes it difficult to achieve their weight goals. My advice is - get help. Quit trying so hard when you are not sure of the outcome, it can increase your frustration. Get a coach, someone who will study your body system and help you through the process.

Don't give up or try things that could be detrimental to you. It is better to do this on your own and not be forced by a health challenge, because that will put you under intense pressure. Also, check your relationships that keep you comfortable with wrong diets, get a bathroom scale and stay positive.

Much Love,

Copyright (C) 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Saturday, 30 April 2016


A lot has happened with the Nigerian pidgin since I was a child. If you share the same opinion, read Rising Trends of the Nigerian Pidgin against Standard English and let me have your view.

Copyright (C) 2011 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor
First published on the ConnectNigeria website (Rising Trends of the Nigerian Pidgin Against Standard English)- 28/3/16

Monday, 25 April 2016


Hello Everyone,

Remember I promised to bring you some juicy gist about people who have carved a niche for themselves here in naija?  Here we are.

Our first guest does something that a lot of people feel too embarrassed to do, she makes money doing what she loves best - cooking.

Your first thought may be that she probably does not have a university degree, right? Sorry to burst your bubbles, she is a university graduate who decided to do her best with the skills that God has placed in her.

What are you doing with the gifts God has given you? What are you doing with what you know to do? Do you just sit and notice all the faults of other people? It shows that you yearn to right the wrong in that area.

We will continue this discussion about our first guest tomorrow. Keep reading!!!

Saturday, 9 April 2016



hat is truth? The oxford mini reference dictionary defines truth as the quality of being true or something that is true’. We also have a definition of true as being “in accordance with fact, genuine, exact, accurate, loyal, faithful.” We can deduce from the preceding definitions that facts are what make up truth. Keep reading here...

Copyright (C) 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor.

First published by the author on ConnectNigeria website 8/4/16

Friday, 8 April 2016


A Mile in her Shoes 

A Mile in her Shoes
These are links to purchase the paperback and the e-copy of my novella A Mile in Her Shoes

Enjoy reading....

Tuesday, 5 April 2016


I have observed that complaining has become the only solution many of us think there is to the challenges around us. We know of fuel scarcity, high cost of living and other challenges we currently have in this nation, but I believe we need to start tapping into other ways of changing our current situation. Complaining constantly is not good for you psychologically, it makes you feel defeated, even when there is something you can do.

Think of ways to carve a niche for yourself as an individual. If we pour as much energy as we do into complaining into ways of helping ourselves, we will live better.

Please note that I am not saying the issues arising are unfounded or that people should not exercise their freedom of expression, I am just saying that I have observed that whatever you focus on, magnifies. Since we know we have the ability to magnify issues by focusing on them, let us try to focus on things that we can harvest from.

Over the next couple of weeks, I will be bringing you examples of individuals who have carved a niche for themselves here in Nigeria. Keep your eyes and ears open.

Friday, 1 April 2016



 attended a training exercise today and guess what? Everyone was talking about trying to explore their creative talents and being unable to go through because of challenges. The most common challenge was finance. The facilitator had to correct the mindset by stating clearly that holding on to the idea that all you need is money is terrible. You may have needs, challenges etc. but money may not be the answer. Keep reading here...

Copyright (C) 2011 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor.

First published on ConnectNigeria 31/3/16

Sunday, 27 March 2016

Nefe's Thots: Little Things that Matter

Nefe's Thots: Little Things that Matter: There is a general desire to look at the big things - a graduate looks to the point when he will earn six digits; a worker looks to the time...

Little Things that Matter

There is a general desire to look at the big things - a graduate looks to the point when he will earn six digits; a worker looks to the time when he will be the manager; a lady looks ahead to the day when she will walk down the isle, dressed in white; and a man looks forward to the day when he will sit and have all his children as graduates surrounding him with their families.

These are all good desires, it is okay to expect  the best of life, but the connecting factor is what we do in-between. What do you do everyday in preparation for six figures et al'. I have learnt these few tips and will like to share them with you:

1. Never be idle: Whatever your hands find to do, do with all your might. It happens a lot to see people look down on what they have before them, but expect miracles from heaven. You are mean to the not-so-good-looking guy  in your office, but you are trusting God for a cool guy. You refuse to take up a front desk job, but prefer to sit at home without a job, waiting for six figures.

2. Keep improving on what you have: Life is a journey, and moving continuously ahead opens you up to different horizons. The parable of the talents is a vivid example here; the more, the more. Improve on what you have and more opportunities will open up.

3. Help others on the way: Be of assistance to everyone you can assist, never feel inept. Sometimes people feel distracted by opportunities to help, they prefer to keep heading in the direction of  success alone.

4. Be thankful: Whatever you achieve, thank God for it. If you are faithful in little, you will be faithful in much. Faithfulness attracts rewards that money cannot buy.

5. Don't take short cuts: Sometimes, people make it seem like you have to be crooked to succeed, they shun honesty and right living. You do not need to cut corners or cheat to succeed. It may take a while, but doing the right thing pays.

6. Expect the best: Be positive and you will get positive results.

I hope this has helped you today, like I said earlier, life is a journey, it does not happen to you suddenly. Believe the best and prepare for it, and you will see the fruit you really desire.

Copyright © 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Saturday, 26 March 2016

Wonders shall never End

Indeed, wonders shall never end. We are constantly faced with experiences that leave us in awe. My youngest son made it clear today that he only wants to eat 'Fried Rice'. I tried all his other favourites but the little boy said a resolute 'no'. I even reminded him that there were no veggies at home, as I used the last batch for the Fried rice we just finished and he instructed me politely to buy some more veggies on my way from work.

This reminds me of the fact that the kids of this age have minds of their own, they are more aware of themselves than we were and learn a lot from their environments, TV, games, the internet etc. It reminds me daily that we cannot let them grow up without pointing certain things out  to them. We cannot assume that they will grow up right. We have to be deliberate about their friends and acquaintances, their exposure, religion, our time with them and everything you can think of because we have been instructed to "train up a child the way he should go an when he is old, he will not depart from it".

I am not saying force them to be all you want them to be or be rigid with them, I am saying expose them to what is right; but also let them learn to make right choices, like my son who learnt that eating fried rice everyday is not balanced.

Have a great day,
Omonefe O. Eruotor

Copyright © 2016 Omonefe Oisedebamen Eruotor

Monday, 21 March 2016


I just published a novella titled A Mile in Her Shoes, and guess what? It was not a walk in the park. I remember waking up at night to write chapters, when I had a baby who was less than 18 months old. I remember sending it out for typing because I wrote in ink (archaic right!) and having to read through to make corrections and finally send to an editor bla bla bla. My point is, working to see your dreams come true is not always easy, giving up is EASY. If you know how many manuscripts I have lost or destroyed, you would expect me to just tell myself that this is not for me; but I trusted God for  grace and here I am today.

Don't expect a rain of everything you have ever wished for to fall on you one day, keep striving, keep digging and watch your dreams come true; and don't feel you are at a disadvantaged position - now a mother, so you cannot combine the challenges of running a home, caring for a child with going after your dream.

Dare to dream and dare to see your dreams come true.

Much Love,
Omonefe Eruotor